“All the days I spent before that life-changing year are cloudy memories that I have stored in the recesses of my mind. I’ve locked them away from others and myself because they are just too painful to remember and they do not bring any light or love to the life that I lead now”, she explains.
Deciding to change her life has not just made Jo a new person on the outside, the one within shines a thousand time brighter, illuminating her outlook and focus.
“The life I have now is one worth fighting for – it is one filled with joy, success, love, energy, zeal, and passion. However, it also one that forces to me to suffer at times, to feel the pain of defeat and the frustration of setbacks, and to feel the weight of the world on my shoulders. The old me would have cowered at these type of tribulations and hid among the darkness.”
That new found radiance has permeated her attitude and zest for life, but also her mentality of how she approaches life.
“That woman that cowered is gone. I have evolved into a warrior – a woman who will fight for what is right, just, healthy, and good in this world and who believes in her ability to make a difference in her own life and the lives of others. I am proud of my journey for the small steps I have taken along the way are the ones that help me stand strong at the foot of mountains and keep me poised to carry on with strength, courage, grace, and honor.”
There was a point in her life when Jo weighed around 415lbs and wore a size 28. Despite being a young woman in her prime, she felt that she hadn’t even begun to live and experience life. Travelling anywhere by flight wasn’t an option because she couldn’t fit into an airplane seat. Amusement rides provided the same difficulty. This meant she rarely went out to enjoy happy times with her family or friends. This led to a vicious circle of staying indoors. Accusatory and mocking looks, pointed fingers and stares led her to feel isolated, with only family and a tight, small circle of friends being around her.
“Physically, I can remember not being able to walk up the 16 stairs at my parents’ house without feeling like I had just ran a marathon. And, I never ever contemplated setting foot into a gym because it would have been too embarrassing. I had become a person that wasn’t truly alive and that was sad and depressed. I knew that I ate poorly and that I didn’t get any exercise, but for years I wasn’t ready to make any changes. I chose instead to eat huge amounts of fast food, sodas, sweets, and processed foods and then not exert any type of physical activity. I had fallen into a black hole lifestyle that kept me shackled underneath hundreds of pounds of weight – taking a toll on my body and my soul.”
Her epiphany came one day as she looked back at the woman that greeted her in her mirror. Tired of feeling so sad all the time and craving something better, the blanket of doubt that had stifled her for so long was beginning to lift. Jo began to move. Slowly at first, but it was a start.
“I began walking late at night around my parents’ neighborhood so that no one would see me walking. I was too afraid of being made fun of to actually do my exercise in the light of day. I was still hiding in the shadows, but I was making my way out – slowly, but surely. I cut out sodas and fast food entirely and began researching ways to eat healthy. There wasn’t one magical diet or workout plan that I followed in the beginning. I was just taking baby steps to becoming healthier. But, changing the way I ate and incorporating moderate physical exercise, helped me shed pounds over the first couple of months. I kept up my walking and healthy eating for about 6 months and I ended up losing about 60 pounds. Once that initial weight came off and I could begin to see a different face and body in the mirror, my whole attitude changed. I knew I could do it. I knew I could make even more progress.”
Home workouts were the next phase. Scheduling set exercises to work out to gave her something to work with. Still fearing what she believed to be the glare and audience that was a gym, she avoided the gym. This was one fear she wasn’t ready to face – yet. Not before long, she’d shed 100lbs. She took this as the signal to employ a trainer to help her push further.
“I found a local trainer, Jonathan Smith, to help me continue on my journey. He incorporated muscle confusion, strength training, cardio, boxing, and outdoor exercise. I lost nearly 115 pounds by combining training like this, along with another BeachBody program, P90X, in about a year.”
By the end of her turnaround, Jo had lost around 215lbs and dropped from a size 28 to a 10. The confidence this journey gave her then shifted to another aspect of her life. The classroom. Harnessing the willpower she’d shown throughout her weight loss journey, obstacles were no longer things to fear, but opportunities to conquer. While she attended law school, she knew that the stresses and strains she experienced in an academic sense could be alleviated with a good diet and continued physical exercise.
“So, in my last year of law school, back in 2013, I decided to get another trainer. I was able to find Jason Johnson, through Independence Gym in Scottsdale. Jason has helped keep me in shape and believe that I am more than just a woman who has lost weight. I am an athlete that has been hidden for so many years. He incorporates high intensity interval training with both boxing and heavy strength training. I have defined muscles now that I never knew even existed! Through his training I felt poised to take on a challenge that I never thought I would ever have a chance to even think about. The Spartan Race. I decided that my law school graduation present and the best way to celebrate passing the Arizona bar exam and becoming an attorney was to finally compete in the Spartan Race!”
Training for it with the same precision and determination she had shown throughout her weight loss victory and graduating from law school, she prepared herself for what lay ahead. She was ready.
“On February 8, 2014 I approached the starting line of the Arizona Spartan Sprint ready to face my biggest physical challenge ever. My fiancé, Jules Demetrius, who is battling Stage 3 colon and liver cancer, had hoped to be in those spectator bleachers cheering me on, but due to his diminished physical capacities, he was unable to do so. But, he voiced his support all over social media, touting his love and admiration for what I have accomplished. Every day he endures horrible pain as he fights against cancer and his strength and courage only spur me to continue to face my fears and give 100% to everything in my life.”
“As I crossed the finish line I began to cry. It had been the biggest physical challenge I had ever faced and subsequently conquered. Years of hard work, determination, and struggles had culminated in the completion of this 4.5 mile race. And as Arisotle penned, ‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.’ I have truly embraced the Spartan code of never quitting and never accepting defeat. I will carry those virtues with me for the rest of my days, for I am, and always have been a fighter. AROO!”
Jo knows now what it means to know at the finish line. Do you?