After much of the country endured a very long and bitter winter, the cold has finally subsided and we now find ourselves eagerly anticipating the warmth of the summer months. But along with the excitement of balmy summer days and the promise of sunshine and plenty of time spent outdoors, this time of year can also bring with it the jarring realization of forgotten New Year’s Resolutions, a sudden awareness of an overabundance of holiday indulging, and the overwhelming dread of “bikini season”.
Women are constantly bombarded with the pressure to fit a specific body type, especially as the warmest months of the year arrive. It seems as though a wave of disappointment begins to wash over us as we are forced to peer back at the women on fashion magazines, smiling happily at us as they pose confidently in their tiny bikinis. The headlines enticing us with their perfect “quick fix” to help us magically drop 10-15 pounds in just a matter of days. And just like that our brains convince us that we are inferior, telling us that because we have not achieved the body we see before us that we have failed, and a sudden drop in self-confidence leaves us spiraling into a self-loathing depression.
Each year we repeat this cycle, and each year the pressure is on to achieve the perfect bikini body. Unfortunately it seems that our society teaches us that little to no actual effort is required to attain long lasting results, and instead we are bombarded with ads promising that we can drop a copious amount of weight within just a few days by completing a quick workout and sticking to their prescribed diet. This is not realistic, nor is it a healthy way to lose weight.
How many women do you know (or perhaps are you one of them?) who suddenly hit the panic button when summer suddenly arrives? Thus begins a manic flurry of massive calorie restrictions, diet pills and workout overkill guaranteed to burn out even the most determined of women. Even though a few pounds may be initially lost, this weight reduction is fleeting, as sooner or later our bodies need proper nutrition, realistic fitness goals and a healthy approach to maintain lasting results. The yo-yo effect can wreak havoc not only on your body, but on your self-confidence as well, as you swing back and forth between self-hatred and frantic desperation while trying to maintain a lifestyle based around deprivation.
So how do we overcome this vicious cycle and instead find ourselves approaching summer with confidence? You may even wonder if this is even possible. To begin with, committing to a lifestyle which combines healthy eating with a workout plan which is consistent and realistic is key. Our bodies aren’t meant to gain and lose excessive amounts within a short period of time, but a pound or two lost a week by means of a healthy diet and exercise is much more likely to stay off in the long run. We also need to realize that these goals take time. Just as it takes time to gain weight (which is why we generally don’t realize the vast impact that we’ve made on our bodies until more pounds than we care to admit have crept onto our bodies), it also takes time to lose weight. I’ve met countless women who have begun a journey towards better health, who become frustrated when results do not instantly happen, and then they give up, convinced that the desired weight loss will never occur. It’s then that they then tend to revert to the “quick fix diets” which unfortunately will never truly deliver the results that are so desired.
But not only do women need to focus on committing to a lifestyle focused on healthy diet and exercise that is a long term investment, but also (and this is much easier said than done), we need to stop being so hard on ourselves.
I recently saw an incredibly inspiration video that had been shared in the Spartan Chicked Facebook group, and it moved me to think about how hard we as women are on ourselves, and a lot of times on each other as well. The video hosted Tarynn Brumfitt, a woman who has struggled with body image issues for years, much like the majority of women in our society today. As a former body builder, she realized that even with the “perfect body” she still found herself lacking confidence as to how she felt about herself. She then went on to become a mother, which produced curves that left her feeling much less than perfect. Upon taking on a project to ask 100 women to describe themselves in one word, she was horrified as each woman she asked replied with a self-loathing description; “Lumpy, Fat, Ugly, Average, Stumpy..” these are just a few of the replies she heard, and she began to wonder if her own daughter would someday feel the same way about her own body, refusing the see the beauty that she too possesses. This changed something in Tarynn, and she has now committed to loving her body, no matter her shape, and began the “Embrace” movement, which is raising money for a documentary that will be centered on teaching women to learn to love their bodies.
Tarynn’s story is just one of many in which women are choosing to fight against the urge to fall into a pattern of self-hatred, fad dieting, and unrealistic workout goals. What we as women need to do is band together to support one another in our individual objectives. We need to encourage, love, and advocate for each other, and we need to commit to loving ourselves as well. This isn’t easy, but it’s possible, and surrounding ourselves with other women who are devoted to this same mindset will help us be that much more successful in our own personal fitness and health goals.
I recently saw a great meme online that said, “How do you get a bikini body? Simple. Put a bikini on your body.” Several drawings of women of all shapes and sizes in bikinis were then displayed. What a great message! Yes, I do believe we should all strive to be as healthy as we can, but we also must realize that we are all at different stages of that journey. Just because you may not look like a model on a magazine, does not mean that the great things that you are working toward achieving shouldn’t be celebrated! Just don’t give up; you can do what you set out to do!
So should you rock that bikini? Yes! Wear it confidently! Love the body you have, and keep working steadily toward your goals, I know you’ve got this! Spartan Chicked women are strong, confident, and dedicated, and as long as you don’t forget how beautiful you truly are, you’ll live with confidence as you continue on your journey of healthy, happy living.
~Holly Joy Berkey