Being strong physically is one thing, but when you bear the weight of some emotional or spiritual to yourself to keep harm away from a loved one – especially a son or daughter – you know that parent is as strong as they come. Iram is no stranger to battling demons. But his greatest battle is making sure that his daughter Kiana flourishes and grows, hopefully following in his footsteps.
“As I try to do the most important task the universe has ever assigned me, raising a little girl, I try to balance the let’s have fun, let’s push our limits and let’s share what we do. Kiana and I had ran together, bear crawled together, done the monkey bars together as I trained for Vermont last year.
As anyone that follows Iram via social media, reads his blog or has the very good fortune to know him personally, there is nothing more important to him than his daughter. Post after post he shares follows Kiana’s progress and even “humble-bragging” about her scoring a part in the school play. She is the center of his universe. Everything else is secondary. Even his training incorporates her, as he recalls, “the point of life, at least mine, is relationships and Kiana is above all others in that pecking order. So when I trained for the biking century, it didn’t feel right to be learning how to learn to cycle unless I was teaching Kiana how to ride a bicycle. With the Spartan events, they felt incomplete because Kiana had never been to one. So, when one came back in to Texas, it was time to take Kiana to do the kids Spartan. Because the point of my therapy is to keep going because of those relationships, but sometimes that therapy and that relationship happen simultaneously.
“I don’t know if Kiana will focus on being a girl who likes to workout or a girl who likes to do her make up but like the Spartan women of old and the Spartan athletes of now, I want her to know that her gender is not pre-destiny. That may mean big things or it may mean little things like when her and I paint our toenails together. I was raised by a great woman. If there’s ever any question of how I have any capacity to raise a princess, it’s because I was raised by a Queen.
“There’s a saying of a Spartan woman whose son was complaining that his sword was too short and she responded with “add a step to it.” Some of the arsenal since cancer isn’t what it used to be, finances, medical things, literally a piece of my brain. But you know what, that Spartan women’s spirit lived into my mother and I hope to pass it on to my daughter and we’re going to add a lot more than one step to it.”