By Carrie Adams
Emails flood into HQ every day from our athletes. We hear stories of weight loss, of reclaiming lives, and of ultimately conquering their own fears or overcoming their obstacles to finish. We get before and after pictures, hear stories from the hilarious to the sobering and we often talk about the people who find our finish lines, how thousands come together on race day, each bringing their own story and their own reason for being there and how we wish we could tell all their stories. How we wish that before they left we could find out what brought them out and we could properly congratulate every finisher for not just their work on race day, but for all the days before, and we hope that they take that accomplishment with them when they leave a Spartan Race venue and it becomes a part of them.
One story came to me and like so many others, I opened it without expectation and began to read the words of one of our athletes. I sat in stunned silence reading the story of a woman who will be running in PA this Saturday, who has overcome obstacles so few of us could begin to understand and at Spartan HQ we applaud and acknowledge her courage in sharing her harrowing story that shows that even the darkest times can be opportunities for us to find ourselves and find strength we didn’t know existed inside of us. She’s a survivor of domestic abuse and has used her training for a Spartan Race as a platform to lift her up and out of the horrific situation. She’s reclaimed her life. Hear her tell her story, in her own words, one of the most powerful stories that’s ever crossed my desk as Spartan Race Blog Editor:
[Editor's Note: In order to protect the writer and her family, we have left her name and identity anonymous.]
I’ve been a victim of domestic violence for over a decade. The broken bones, bruises and scarring are nothing compared to my loss of my self-respect and freedom. Prior to my marriage, I was an athlete. Noncompetitive but I always gave 100%! Roller hockey, Running, Motocross, Tennis to name a few, I loved being active. After my marriage, and little by little, I was forced to give up the things I loved; guilted into quitting because my activities were taking time and attention away from my husband. I complied, telling myself that being a good wife was my priority. After a couple of years, I was prisoner in my own home. I was isolated from all my friends and family, 20 pounds overweight and completely devoid of pride and self-respect. That’s about when the physical abuse started. The most serious injuries were broken vertebrae and a torn ACL which have caused me years of pain. As far as I was convinced, I would never run again. I was despondent and in complete denial. I was a college graduate, domestic abuse was something foreign to me, and I convinced myself that it was my fault. I learned to navigate the life of a battered spouse in secret.
A little over a year ago, I saw a banner ad on a web site for the Spartan Race. I don’t know what made me click on it, but once I read about the Spartan Race Series – my life changed! My inner voice screamed, “Run the race!” and the pictures of the racers’ faces as they crossed the finish line woke up something fierce inside me! For months I debated whether I should sign up for the race, all the while starting to tune up my body and mind.
I started small, a few sit-ups on the living room floor when my husband wasn’t in the room. Then I progressed to running at work during my lunch break. Any time I could find to sneak some exercise in, I did! Push-ups on my office floor, leg lifts in the bathroom. I even turned yard work into an Olympic event. Then I finally made the commitment and registered for the race. My race date; July 14th, 2012 became the most important date in my life! I pushed myself to the limits, encouraged and motivated by the upcoming race. Having that goal, registering for that race and preparing for it FINALLY gave me the courage to stand up. My new strength and endurance gave me ability to defend myself and if I had to run away, he couldn’t catch me! The police station was 0.6 miles from my door and I knew I could get there in under 4 minutes.
It wasn’t easy but now, I have courage, strength, self respect and the frantic desire to live again. I’m part of a wonderful support group and now that I can exercise out in the open, I’ve joined a gym and am training every spare moment I get. I have pain from the pins and bolts in my knee and back but I fight through it simply by visualizing that finish line. Because of the Spartan Race – I am no longer a victim. This race not only helped me find who I used to be, but helped me become a new and better person. The Spartan Race helped me find the courage, endurance and drive I needed to break out of this abusive cycle and for that, I can never thank you enough. My transformation has been astonishing from both a physical and mental perspective and I am so grateful to your organization for fostering this. In an effort to give back, I’ll be signing up to volunteer for the race and I cannot wait to join everyone on the “battlefield” for a day of fun and self-discovery.
My sincerest gratitude for all your organization stands for. Thank you for helping me get my life back.
July 11, 2012 at 11:15 am
That is amazing, good for her for finding the courage to stand up and start taking her life back.
A true Spartan Chick.
July 11, 2012 at 12:10 pm
As someone who has been there, I feel your pain, and as scars heal the emotional damage can linger. Keep strong, keep pushing forward, running was your first victory. You have already won. I would love to meet you Saturday. Beast mode on!
July 11, 2012 at 5:56 pm
Almost one year ago (on my birthday), I made the decision to leave a 20-year dysfunctional relationship … I will forego the details of ups and downs of the past 20 years, but will sum it up by saying, I am now not running from my past, but running into my future and basking in the blessings of the present moment.
I applaud you for your bravery and your strength. I tell the athletes and individuals I coach and train every day… that the number 1 reason to get out there and workout and participate is not for ourselves, more importantly it is for the opportunity, the chance to possibly inspire the person next to us.
You never know what someone is going through. Be kind to them. Humanity does prevail.
Peace and blessings to you, my brave Spartan warrior. Maybe I will get to see you in PA.
JJS
July 11, 2012 at 11:16 pm
Thank you so much for your kind and motivating words. Even though I’ve worked through all this on my own and trained in isolation, somehow I still feel connected to all the other Spartan Racers. I’ve never experienced such camaraderie and support that I’ve seen among the Spartan athletes…and we haven’t even raced yet! Now that I’ve gotten my life back, I want to….no, need to inspire or help someone else. Not only is it helpful in “recovering” from an abusive relationship, but it’s what I truly feel I need to do! Juliana, what you say about running toward a future really touched me! Thank you for taking time to share that with me! I’ll be bringing that on the course with me to help me through the tough parts.
I can’t wait to meet and mingle with all the amazing Spartan athletes and I feel so lucky to be counted among you! Maybe I will find someone to hang out with so I can check out the “pub crawl” after the race! I have a lot of life to catch up on!
July 12, 2012 at 12:05 am
With some tears in my eyes, I eagerly say “Good for you!” This truly trumps many of the blogs I have read! Spartan Chicks rule! Your story will encourage others to follow you, glad you took the time to share:)
July 12, 2012 at 11:03 am
Also with some tears in my eyes I wanted to thank you for sharing. I don’t know if you’ve seen this inspirational spartan video( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_TRUSTEKRp0 ), its that one with the quote from Marianne Williamson about our deepest fears, its one that really motivates me and as I read your story the same emotions were stirred.
I have witnessed such a relationship.
I would say you’ve shown that you are powerful beyond measure.
You should be proud and forever hold your head up high and good luck in PA.
July 12, 2012 at 12:39 pm
Wow! What an amazingly inspirational story, thank you for sharing it. I never really understood the slogan “You’ll know at the finish line”, until I finished my races this year. The sense of pride and accomplishment that I felt was unparalleled to anything else I had ever done, and I can only imagine how much more it will be for you. I really believe these races bring something out in everyone, something great that gets buried deep down in the course of everyday life. It sounds like you have already discovered that place. I wish you nothing but the best this weekend in PA, I know every Spartan that reads this is behind you.
July 13, 2012 at 10:35 am
Very inspiring. Thank you.
July 13, 2012 at 2:30 pm
Truly inspiring and life changing. Good luck! You’ve motivated me!